question

what do you believe is the secret to happiness in such a complex world?

my perspective

i adore this question so much, and for so many reasons. it's true that sometimes happiness feels like this big, impossible thing—like a grand destination we need to reach in order to feel fulfilled. and trust me, i know, this world does not make it easy. honestly, i don’t think there’s one secret. happiness isn’t one huge moment that changes everything; it’s all the quiet, lovely moments that come together. it’s choosing to romanticize the mundane, choosing to love people deeply, choosing to let yourself be soft in a world that wants you to be hard.

happiness isn’t found, it’s noticed. what people don’t always realize is that it’s not about changing your circumstances, but about changing the way you see them. i know, i know, easier said than done. but think about this: how different would your days feel if you saw inconveniences as detours instead of roadblocks? if you let yourself believe that maybe, just maybe, the universe is conspiring in your favor?

listen, i fully believe perspective is everything. it’s what turns failure from the end into the start of something better. it’s what shifts a ‘bad day’ into just a ‘challenging moment’—because let’s be real, do we actually have bad days, or just bad hours that we let take over?

the beautiful thing about perspective is that it’s yours to shape. you don’t have to be relentlessly positive, but you can be open—open to seeing things a little differently, open to choosing softness over frustration, open to believing that even the hard stuff is leading you somewhere good.

so here’s my challenge to you: take one thing that’s been weighing you down and try to see it through a different lens. maybe it’s not a setback, but a redirection. maybe it’s not rejection, but protection. maybe it’s not a loss, but a lesson. and maybe, just maybe, it’s all unfolding exactly as it should.

find your peace. it’s your power.

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have you ever had an experience or person or thing that you let “get away”, if so why and do you think it was for the better?

absolutely—i think most of us have. for me, it was a person. someone i cared deeply about, someone who made me feel seen in ways i hadn’t before. we shared art, poetry, long conversations, and even longer silences that somehow still felt full. it was the kind of connection that felt like it was made of stardust.

but it got away. or maybe, more honestly, i let it go, but i don’t necessarily regret it. timing was off. we were in different chapters, wanting different things, trying to grow in directions that didn’t quite align. and while there were moments i questioned that choice, moments i wanted to reach back and grab hold of it again, i’ve come to believe it happened for a reason.

some things are meant to pass through us, not stay. they come to teach us something—about love, about ourselves, about what we need. that relationship taught me what it feels like to be inspired by someone, to be truly emotionally present, and to let go with grace when something is no longer serving your growth.

was it for the better? in the long run, yes. i’m not sure i’d be the person i am now—more grounded, more self-aware, more open—if i hadn’t experienced that loss. it made space for peace. for new beginnings. for choosing myself. and that, i think, is a kind of gain too.